I am not really a hard ass
This story was submitted anonymously to the How We Show Up collection as part of the July SEEQ sessions.
At work people perceive me as a hard-ass. This is interesting to me because it is so far from my authentic self and if you talk to any of my friends outside of work they would laugh at that suggestion. My authentic self is very caring and always looking for ways to help others, including helping people succeed in their careers. I truly want the best for everyone and want to do what I can to help them get there. Sometimes this means pushing them. I push them because I know they can do it. I don’t push to set them up for failure, I push them because I want to offer them challenges and experiences that will help them learn and grow. I had one employee in the past that struggled. She was always telling people how hard I was to work for and how I was always pointing out what she was doing wrong. However, I wasn’t pointing out her mistakes. I was offering her coaching and suggestions on how to look the situation differently, why I was suggesting it and how it could make an impact on the situation. This employee moved close to home and took a job in a different city. After having been gone for roughly two years, I randomly received a text from her. The text was thanking me for everything I had done for her and for always having faith in her and always pushing her. She acknowledged that at the time she didn’t understand why I was pushing her but she now does. She went on to say how everything I did for her has helped her in her new role. This was a very proud moment for me as that is all I am ever trying to do.